As a working mom I’ve realized it is a delicate balancing act that comes with its fair share of challenges. In addition to juggling the demands of a career, many women grapple with guilt and societal pressures to meet our own self-imposed expectations of being a perfect working mom. It's time to break free from these chains and empower ourselves to redefine success on our own terms. In this blog post, we'll explore strategies for overcoming guilt and societal pressures, allowing us to thrive in both our professional and personal lives.
Let’s start with defining our own success:
The notion of a perfect working mom is a societal construct that can be overwhelming. Begin by defining what success means to you. I had to recognize that it's okay to prioritize my career aspirations without feeling guilty about it. I am balancing a growing 9-5 career, and business ventures that are all impactful to my personal and professional growth but also the communities that I am engaging with. Take some time to reflect on your personal values, interests, and what truly brings you joy in both your work and family life. Embrace the fact that your version of success may not align with traditional expectations, or what you see from the next mama, and that is perfectly fine.
Now, redefining expectations:
Society often places unrealistic expectations on us, making it impossible to meet every demand flawlessly. It's important to challenge these societal norms and embrace the idea that perfection is an unattainable standard. Understand that being a good mother doesn't require sacrificing your career or neglecting your own personal growth. Instead, focus on being present, making meaningful connections with your children, and nurturing a loving and supportive environment. I knew it was important for me to keep my identity and not let go of my goals in life. Learning to incorporate my family has helped eliminate the guilt tremendously.
The hard part, embracing the power of "No":
As a working mom, we face numerous requests and expectations that can leave us feeling overwhelmed. Learning to say "no" is not only crucial for maintaining your own sanity but also for setting healthy boundaries. Understand that it's okay to prioritize your time and energy, giving yourself permission to decline certain commitments or delegate tasks when necessary. Though this is highly necessary, it’s easier said than done as most of us are naturally giving. Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup – taking care of yourself is essential.
I’ve taken time to build a supportive network, have you?
Surrounding yourself with a strong support system is invaluable. Seek out like-minded working moms who understand your journey and can provide emotional support. A supportive network can offer guidance, wisdom, and a safe space to share your triumphs and challenges. Through engaging in networking events such as The Mommy Mixer hosted by The Bawse Mom Movement and Mommies with Motivation, joining online communities, or attending local meet-ups to find your tribe can be a great way to find your support!
Last but certainly not least, practicing self-compassion:
Like most mothers, guilt has often crept in when I perceived myself falling short as a mother or professional. Combatting this by practicing self-compassion has helped me remember that I am doing the best I can with the resources available to me. Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, big or small, and forgive yourself for any perceived mistakes. Treat yourself with kindness and remind yourself that being a working mom is a testament to your strength and resilience.
Overcoming guilt and societal pressures as a working mom is a journey towards self-acceptance and empowerment. By defining your own version of success, redefining expectations, learning to say "no," embracing a supportive network, and practicing self-compassion, you can free yourself from the shackles of perfectionism. Trust your instincts, trust your abilities, and trust that you are creating a fulfilling life that encompasses both career success and motherhood. Remember, you are stronger than you know, and you have the power to thrive beyond societal expectations.
~TheBawseMomđź’‹
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